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citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
4/21/2021 1:42 pm

If he had to ask you what you were looking for, then he didn't read your profile in my view.


ULIXBIG 69M
9288 posts
4/21/2021 2:20 pm

You DO matter!


flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
4/21/2021 2:23 pm

I just read your profile and it clearly tells me you are looking for more than sex. You seek friendships and lasting lovers

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
4/21/2021 2:30 pm

Yeah...ties in with the stuff I posted last week, it's about what HE wants, not what you want.

I mean, I get it, what they want has to be a factor too, but it shouldn't be the ONLY factor.

The only thing that gives me any compassion for it is that I think life with male hormones is an entirely different experience that I can't even begin to imagine. 🤷🏻‍♀️


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
4/21/2021 2:31 pm

I also get asked what I am looking for. How is not meeting at this time not clear. It means not meeting. That means not looking for anything. Some ask me what is my kinks. How is my profile saying not here to talk about my kink unless meeting not clear.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
4/21/2021 3:00 pm

The sad truth is, regardless of what you say and how you phrase it, people are going to miss it, misunderstand it, totally ignore it or not give a damn what it says. It has become the norm for people to be so focused on what THEY want, what THEIR desires are, what you can do for THEM, that what you want is irrelevant and unimportant.
Alrighty then...I've managed to spread my bit of joy and sunshine for today and I'm sure you feel ever so much better for it!
(a wee bit of sarcasm there. And yes, Lala knows I'm a smartass)

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redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
4/21/2021 3:16 pm

"I expect certain things from adults. It seems I shouldn't."

It somewhat depends on what you are expecting. I don't expect adults (M or F) to; be intelligent, or respectful, or to have "common" sense, or be able to comprehend what is in front of them.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


hippiechick1967 60F  
13154 posts
4/21/2021 3:21 pm

I'm pretty straightforward about what I want on my profile too, yet I still get lots of extraneous emails. I think a lot of people here can't read the profiles (standard members) and just collect points to send an email. Then there are the gold members who can read them but choose not to, or choose to ignore them. It takes all kinds, as they say, and nothing I write on my profile stops them from coming.

As for what you write on your blog, that's your business. People will come and read it or they won't. I try not to care too much about what people think although sometimes I do.

Elevate me...


DiscreetQuirky 55M  
280 posts
4/21/2021 5:55 pm

I work with a bunch of "professionals". They don't read emails. They don't read documents. We have a crapload of communication technology and people still operate as if we are stuck in an old oral tradition. So I think people on here are probably "normal" in their reluctance to read. Not that it's a good thing...


PonyGirl1965 58F
22090 posts
4/22/2021 1:15 am

LaLa you nailed it actually.
You expect certain things from adults.
No disrespect to the thinking men we blog with ... many of the men coming to this site are not adults. They are overgrown children looking to get their rocks off.
That is my snark. Did you hear me roll my eyes as I typed children? LOL


Weeload2 60M
1104 posts
4/22/2021 4:25 am

Awww the poor boys... playing Robin Hood in the wrong forest. They are the bacon sniffers trying to get their meal ticket punched fo' free. I would bet they don't even bat an eye moving on to the next kitchen to try their luck over there. Seems to be a trendy mentality.

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CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
4/22/2021 7:01 am

Just for grins I went back and reread your profile. Yeah, good job, distinct and clear, and not droning on the paragraph after paragraph to the extent that it discourages reading.

So I guess I agree with you, in a certain number of cases it doesn't matter what you write! But also don't discount the "taking a shot" factor - as in the men DO understand but see little to lose in taking a shot anyway, and ALSO that not all women are as open and concise about what they're REALLY seeking.

It would seem to me the best approach is to just tell the ones that clearly don't want what you want something like "Thanks for your interest but it seems we're not seeking the same thing", with no obligation to explain or reply further. (At which point some will get derogatory I know!!) I started to write just ignore the ones that aren't seeking what you are, but given my personal experience with how few replies men get on this site I just couldn't bring myself to do that.

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Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
4/22/2021 11:30 am

You know hun never give up asking questions and saying what you think as there is nothing wrong with it!!

Secondly unfortunately there aren't a lot of men here on this site who take the time to read our profiles, I always hear you have great pictures, well I also wrote an interesting profile.

And like you I hate getting asked those questions that are obviously on my profile, and not just there but on my blog too so there is no excuse for I can't read your profile. Look I get it that standard members can't read profiles, but blogs are free to read by everyone.

I say keep doing what your doing and ignore the ones that don't do what you so nicely asked.

I hope you enjoy a terrific Thursday..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


lust4life59 65F  
2552 posts
4/22/2021 3:19 pm

If they can send an email, chances are they have the capability to read a profile, Whether they choose to or not is their choice. Whether I choose to reply or not is MY choice.


Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
4/22/2021 6:12 pm

I certainly feel & fully understand your frustration Lala as this site will & has driven many sensible folks into full on rage. As is so often the case you are spot on with saying no matter what you write more often than not hardly a word of that sinks in. Seems reading & understanding said written words are not compatible to the many here who bother to actually read profiles. Yet for once Lala I am going to slightly disagree because it does matter what you write on here for many reasons even though frustration will forever follow your valiant efforts. There are some of us here who are interested in what somebody has to say on their profile & do bother to try to respect that persons choices. That said yes I understand that as a woman you get bombarded here with a maelstrom of madness so will leave it at that, but don't give up entirely even though it does seem utterly futile most of the time.


lunchandconvo 53F  
4034 posts
4/24/2021 12:21 am

people don't READ profiles!

one of the things that is an automatic reject is someone who is white telling me they don't play outside their race. yet i'm getting contacted. i'm asian. i'm not interested!


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
4/24/2021 6:14 am

Vent away Lala

I try my best to read profiles through my own hack way to get an idea of what a lady is seeking but that hack doesn't work on most profiles.

But I have had gay men message me when my profile is clear that I am seeking women only so yeah, men of either sexual orientation fail to read profiles even when they have the Burger King crown status

Just remember, tomorrow is another day


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
5/6/2021 1:10 am

There's no need for us men to read profiles........the site tells us that we'll get laid, guaranteed, so what else matters?

Expectations, it's all about managing (read lowering) expectations.

Hope you're well m'dear.


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