Hello all. I'm 5ft 10, short dark hair, greeny hazel eyes with an athletic build from years of sporting interests. Forty has finally hit so everything's going t*ts up in the appearance department. I'll be shrek soon. I've still got my hair though, mostly up my nose, in my ears and on my back! :)) No, really, it's on my head and anything lower down stays well trimmed. I am well-mannered, professional, articulate and intelligent enough to have a few sets of letters after my name. I scored 149 in the IQ test you can take on this AFF site which they class as exceptional (their words not mine). I still got 5 wrong! I prefer to think that I have good common sense more than anything else. You don't have to have a string of qualifications to appeal to me but I do value a deeper level of thinking. Having said that, I don't want someone serious. I don't take myself seriously most of the time and a bit of sillyness can be quite endearing. I've been a member of this site a while. I'd possibly have left the site before now but I set up the [group 12666] group which turned out to be popular and a lot of fun. It was once the seventh most active group on this whole site but eventually, over time, the same old subjects that have been posted to death keep reappearing. It's fine for the newbies but a little tiresome for the rest. I have made some good friends through the group since that time but my time spent on the site has varied dramatically depending on my work schedule. For much of the last 3 years I have not been actively seeking anyone so although I have been a member a long time, the number of people I have met have been few. I've had about half a dozen genuine replies from good people in the Leeds / Manchester areas in the three years I have been a member. I'm not desperate to jump into bed with people so don't treat me as such. I won't be interested in anyone I think is contacting me for any commercial rea. I want to spice up my sex life and explore new sexual avenues (within the boundaries of me being straight) but bisexuality in women I find a turn-on. My testimonials should confirm that I am just a normal guy. No fake testimonials about how great I am in bed, just a confirmation that I'm genuine, reaably balanced and respectful. I have much to offer the right people and I'll expect a similar level of effort to be reciprocated. I'm always looking to give and would prefer somebody who has a similar approach. I am primarily interested in women but will consider couples between the ages of 25 and 50 years who genuinely plan to meet in per. For couples, I am available to meet together with another married AFF lady whom I have met up with on several occasions. We have agreed to get together for the purposes of meeting up with other couples if the right opportunity comes along. We have had sex at a swingers club on several occasions but we have never swapped with anyone to date. Sex in the same room as others is not a problem for me. Sex swings are particularly good as is sex in the sauna. The controversial news is that I am married and have been with my partner for over 20 years. That's a lot when you consider I'm just out of my thirties! We have a good life together but the sex has been scarce over the past 4 years despite me trying to revive the situation with some added spice. To qualify that statement, I have had marital sex maybe 10 times over the last 4 years. I have no intention of leaving her because sex constitutes only one part of the tapestry of a relationship so don't contact me if you seek an exclusive longer term relationship or me leaving my wife. I do love her despite being on this site to satiate my sexual needs. Meetings with anyone from this site therefore will be primarily sexually based although I do consider making friends to be part of the process of meeting someone new, even if it is mostly for sexual thrills. I do initiate sex but I'm not the type to on anyone if there is no desire to participate. If there is no desire on her part then I go without. Hence my current circumstances I suppose. Besides, sex is no fun with somebody who is just going through the motions out of obligation. It is desire and lust which creates the spark and that is what I am looking for. Unfortunately I cannot continue this forced abstention which is why I seek a discreet liai with somebody else, perhaps in a similar situation. In fact, someone in the same circumstances would be ideal. I realise many will not approve of my actions and therefore will not be interested in contacting me but I'm just being [B]honest[/B] about my situation. Don't contact me to give me a hard time about it until you have been in the same position yourself. I have thought long and hard about this course of action and my presence on this site, but I am fine with it and bring no guilt or baggage with me to any meeting. I expect the same. I don't want any drama or complication. I have a desire to please and arouse and that is not being fulfilled. If you want somebody to make the effort with you, then that will be me. I like to meet early because you get to know a per much more quickly and also sense if the chemistry is right. I don't want to text endlessly because a pers body language conveys so much more than words alone. It also eliminates those who are wasting your time. I'm not here on some ego trip or to add notches to my bedpost, I'm looking to enjoy fun times with sexy like-minded individuals who are open-minded and laid back in their style but who like their sexual adventures to be intense and passionate. Nothing painful or weird, just good earthy sex with maximum fun and enjoyment for us all. Having said that, a bit of light bondage can be fun! lol I enjoy a good laugh so don't expect to take things too seriously. I've always been a non-smoker but smoking doesn't bother me so that won't rule you out. I like massage, and kissing and tenderness as much as I like the animalistic, sweaty, sheet-gripping stuff. However, I would never be classed as soft or mushy. The tenderness is eroticism, not 'lovey-dovey' soppyness. I like exhibitionistic, confident women but I can also make a shy perality feel comfortable and relaxed enough to explore the unknown. Shyness is fine with me but there must be an underlying deep desire for sexual pleasure. I'm adaptable and relaxed about sex so nothing really phases me. I'm confident that I know what I'm doing but I'm not over confident and cocky. I hate that. Baby oil is a definite 'must have' for some great fun. I encourage you to bring along your favourite 'toys' to throw into the mix for a bit more variety. They don't frighten me, they excite me. I like nice smiles, big eyes and plump pouty lips but your attitude and level of sexual desire will win over superficial attributes anytime. I am naturally dominant in the bedroom, by accident rather than design, and I have no problems deciding on what to get up to next. I am sensitive enough to pick up on your needs but I'm fine with you being dominant if the mood takes you. I like a spirited woman. I am choosy about my partners and I want you to be also. I'm confident I can stand up to scrutiny. I am fully functional in the equipment department but I'm making no exaggerated claims about size as others do. It is long and thick enough for the job. What's important is mine works fine and more than once in a session. Its main problem is under-utilization! lol Besides, it's not the only thing I use to pleasure a partner. Other parts of my body have been schooled to prolong the fun. I'm very clean and expect you to be also. Peral hygiene is important to me, its only polite to your partner and makes for a better sexual experience. Repeat meetings are preferred with the same per to a string of one off encounters but I'm not looking for a LTR for obvious reas. The nature of my work can allow for daytime meetings occasionally and hotels are fine if you want to keep things really discreet. I will answer all enquiries and I'll tell you everything else you want to know in my reply. I'm an honest guy. There is no point in concealing anything if you are serious and genuine about meeting people. What you see is what you get and yes the pictures are of me and were taken when I joined the site. I'll be honest and say I've put on about 7 pounds since then but I'm back at the gym getting rid of it. The most recent picture of me is the one of me in the towel and shows me with the extra love handles and all. I'm happy to have just a drink and a chat to find out if there is any chemistry so there's no pressure to say yes or no to anything more when we meet. I won't push you into anything if you're not totally happy and hope you will grant me the same courtesy. If you got down to here, you must be interested or really bored. x:))

My Ideal Person I like women to be uninhibited and enjoy lots of foreplay. I love to give oral as much as receive it because I get really turned on by a woman's orally induced orgasm. I like a woman who can keep coming and who gets really wet. I know that's partially down to me but some are able to achieve it much better than others. It is usually determined by how much you can let yourself go.

Someone who is open enough to continually share new experiences with.
Someone exciting and sexually insatiable, not sexually inflatable.
Intelligent and challenging.
Willing to push boundaries, yours and mine.
Make me want to discover how strange you really are.
Perhaps a wolf in sheeps clothing.
Even better, a wolf in wolf's clothing ;o)
Wouldn't say no to a wolf in a leather basque, seamed fishnets and high heeled boots!

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Many but includes Orishas, Erykah Badu, Jamiroquai, Groove Armada, Black Eyed Peas, Johnny Clegg

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Leather, I'm just open minded to new ideas

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
No celebrities, they're too false. I fantasize about
real people, sometimes unknown people. The fantasies
are a series of quick flashes of skin tone, movement, sounds,
sensations, hot, wet, stretching, pulsating, sliding,
grinding. The memory of a face or a body may not be recalled
but the experience seems clear.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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