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Let me clarify up front.........
Posted:Jan 1, 2014 8:38 am
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2014 11:20 am
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I just want to say that I use the terms "black" and "white" in the descriptive sense. I am by no means racist. If you ever met me in person then you know that I do not, in fact I can not, have a prejudice bone in my body
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The Ten Levels of STRAIGHT Male Sexual Achievement
Posted:Aug 10, 2017 4:46 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2021 5:48 am
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Higher level equals greater difficulty:

LEVEL 1 - Vaginal sex
LEVEL 2 - Receiving oral sex without giving any kind of reciprocation
******BONUS if you get to cum in her mouth
******BONUS BONUS if you get her to swallow
LEVEL 3 - Anal Sex
******BONUS if you get her to do ATM
LEVEL 4 - Sex with multiple partners within 24 hours (neither knows of the other(s)
LEVEL 5 - Make her squirt
LEVEL 6 - Sex in front of a camera
LEVEL 7 - Sex in front of other people (watching only)
LEVEL 8 - MFM threesome
LEVEL 9 - FMF threesome
LEVEL 10 - Group sex with more than two or swinger party

I decided against making the oral sex bonuses an achievement in itself and ranking it higher than anal even though I personally find it easier to get women to take it in the ass vice tasting cum.

If you skipped over any particular act you are NOT as experienced as someone who didn't.

if you think FMF is easier to pull off than MFM then you really don't have a clue.

Toys and BDSM acts were excluded

Comments and debates are welcome
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What? No kissing???
Posted:Dec 12, 2016 5:27 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2021 5:50 am
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Not trying to bragg but almost every woman I've had sex with enjoyed some good tongue kissing. But when I say ALMOST I mean I actually met two women on this site who aren't into it at all

No I'm not talking about romantic "I love you" kissing, I'm referring to freaky porno tongue kissing.

These women said they don't like a man's tongue in their mouth yet they let me stuff my dick balls-deep in their throat!

They also didn't want to exchange body fluids yet they were willing to suck and fuck me bareback!!

So WTF - are there a lot of women out there who don't like tongue kissing when fucking or are these two women just dented in some sort of way?
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A Word About Videos
Posted:Oct 19, 2014 5:50 am
Last Updated:Nov 22, 2015 7:00 pm
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Today I watched a video of a woman doing a "naughty" version of the Ice Bucket Chllenge and the music playing in the background was Chariots of Fire.

CHARIOTS OF FIRE

My dick immediately went limp....hitting the mute button didn't work, the psychological damage was done.

I understand that some people like to show their creative skills with Adobe Premiere or whatever video presentation software they use but damn...stop trying to get an Oscar with the shit lolol!

Keep it simple with your videos. No lame ass music or video tricks - just tits and ass and if there is actual fucking involved it's a bonus.
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What's in YOUR Goodie Bag
Posted:Sep 27, 2014 12:09 pm
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2016 8:46 pm
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Gonna start bringing this stuff to all my Men.Date - Gay Dating meets

CONDOMS - because I'm obviously NOT a middle-class white person
ANAL LUBE - as explained in my profile
TRIPOD and REMOTE - makes it easier to take pics while fucking
DIVORCE ORDER - to calm any concerns about my marital status
COLLEGE DIPLOMA - to prove I really am as educated as my profile says

Anything else I should add/subtract?
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We don't worry about STD's because we are MIDDLE CLASS WHITE PEOPLE :-O
Posted:Sep 18, 2014 3:22 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2021 5:51 am
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Said to a woman I recently met when she attended a swinger party and asked why no condoms were being used.

All I can say is WoW and SMDH........
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For those that are having a hard time meeting someone on here......
Posted:Sep 1, 2014 1:34 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2021 5:52 am
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Here's some loose statistical info based on my experiences:

-About 75% of the profiles I send messages to NEVER READ them
-Of the remaining 25%, about another 10% don't reply
-Of the 15% that do reply less than half move to email or phone convo
-Another 2.5% that do never end up in a meet for many different reasons

That leaves just 5%.

One reason I use the VIP feature is because I can attach a read receipt as well as go to the top of the recipient's inbox (bypassing any message filters she may have set). It helps me know who the players are. Being able to send unlimited flowers certainly helps too.

I will say this: IT'S ALL ABOUT THE FACE TO FACE MEET

-About two thirds of the people I meet I end up playing with. Of the remaining third, I'm usually the one who changes my mind. Less than a handful have changed their mind when I was still interested.
-About half of my meets required me to travel
-This doesn't include people I met at group M&G's or swing parties I've been invited to since I've joined this site.

I won't throw out raw numbers, but there isn't a week where I don't meet someone new at the 15% level. Considering I'm an unattached, straight Black male who lives in the deep South and not open to every type of play situation I feel like I get my share on here. However, I KNOW there are other guys out there that do better!

I'm not referring to couples, gay/bi males, or single females. I would think people in those demographics would fare better at getting meets.

So if you feel disappointed, know that it's quite difficult to get a meet from here in the first place.
Agree or disagree? Comments are welcome
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The Blow Job - Ass Fuck Challenge
Posted:Jul 29, 2014 3:51 pm
Last Updated:Jul 25, 2015 3:33 pm
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LADIES!
Think your dick sucking skills are top notch?
Willing to put your ASS on the line to prove it??

The Game:
-Set a timer for 5 minutes
-Start the countdown and begin to suck your guy off
(You can jerk him off until he gets hard and then start the
timer for a handicap)
-If he doesn't cum within 5 minutes he gets to fuck you in your ass - and I mean STRAIGHT TO THE A

HIS rules:
-Can be either standing up or laying down
-Can NOT use his hands to do anything
-Can only look at the act or be blindfolded (no TV, etc.)

HER rules:
-Can get as comfortable as possible
-Can only use ONE hand to hold the base of his dick or balls
-Can NOT stroke his dick with her hands at all
(this is a blow-job not a hand-job)

Note: If you already enjoy being ass fucked then just change the bet. This game is to identify the REAL oral queens from the wannabees and thinktheyares.

GAME ON!!!
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The GOOD, The BAD, and the UGLY
Posted:May 18, 2014 6:36 am
Last Updated:Aug 26, 2015 3:52 pm
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I've been wanting to digress this for quite some time now.

This place isn't like UPWARD where every pic and video is a winner. Although most get an "e" for the effort (which is good) there are some bad ones out there - mainly stuff that just doesn't appeal to us but to each their own.

But let me dwell on the UGLY. Pics so damn messed up it's actually funny and you can't help but make a playful comment (which may actually suggest how to IMPROVE the act but the member is too damn shallow to see the reason) Here's an example:

One member (white woman) decided to post a profile pic with a FAMILY SIZE JAR or VASELINE next to her pussy. Now anyone who's had sex more than a couple of times or watched some 70's porn know what that old skool lube is used for....but she also posted a video of her sitting on a guy's face who was wearing glasses with smudges on them while he was licking her pussy.

What made it worse is she was shining a mag-lite on his face - so what he couldn't see through the Vaseline smeared pussy stains on his bifocals was now blinded by the flashlight. I won't dare imagine what it TASTED like

I'm not making this shit up

Somebody (actually a few members) said he looked like a nerd. I even suggested he wear shades!

My point is that even though YOU may think what you post is good it may not be the best choice to allow others to comment - especially if you don't like negative criticism. Remember on Men.Date - Gay Dating, just like in real life, everyone is not a winner
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ATTENTION: Ladies who work out in the gym please read
Posted:Jan 18, 2014 6:57 am
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2014 1:02 pm
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First of all, let me say that it is a pleasure to see women in the gym taking care of their bodies! Even if you are on the heavier side - the fact that you are applying yourself deserves some recognition and I'll be the first to say I'M PROUD OF YOU

But here's a few words of advice:

1 - you can't make MO ass from NO ass. If you have a flat ass then all that stair climbing you are doing will just make is flatter. If you want a round ass see a plastic surgeon.

2 - WHITE WOMEN PLEASE STOP STICKING YOUR ASS OUT EVERY TIME YOU DO A SET OF REPS! Squats and rows are understandable, but wrist curls!?!? I see this a lot where I work out lol. What's even funnier is the personal trainers (all guys) are coaching it. They are setting you up to give a free show to everyone who is watching you and this brings me to my next bit......

3 - if you wear tight clothes when you work out MEN ARE GOING TO WATCH YOU!!! Especially when you do any exercise that makes you bend and/or spread. Don't want the attention? Dress conservatively - we still think you look sexy. Guys stopped wearing tight stretch shorts a long time ago.

4 - NO MAKEUP!!! Once it starts to run you look bed-tossed and deep down us men are laughing our asses off at you.

5 - a MIRROR is a MAN'S BEST FRIEND!!!! Now we don't have to look at you directly, we can do out thing in front of the mirror and WATCH YOUR REFLECTION and you have absolutely no idea that we are doing it lolol!

Comments always welcome
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To all the YogaDivas out there.....
Posted:Jan 6, 2014 7:45 pm
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2014 5:04 am
28803 Views

A YogaDiva is someone who is so damn selective she can't get what she wants yet she still bitches and moans about how messed up this site is because she isn't getting laid.

Looking for a younger, fit, white guy? So are a lot of other people - so if you don't have what it takes to get one of those in real life WTF makes you think you are going to get one here?

Disappointed because you picked a young white guy who only packs 4 inches?? Put a size requirement on your profile! Better yet, come over to the dark side

Mad because that 4 inches couldn't get hard for you and he ran away??? Well, I can't really defend him but before you complain about how HE couldn't rise to the occasion maybe you should reassess YOUR ability to get him aroused. Some of you YogaDivas think all you need to do is take off your clothes and a dick instantly gets sprung. Truth is it takes incredible skill to keep a dick SOFT and if it happens to you then you need to take a good hard self-assessment because THERE IS SOMETHING ABOOUT YOU that's not right.

But the bottom line is - if you aren't happy with your lack of success here on Men.Date - Gay Dating.......LEAVE! Don't write bullshit about just hanging around to keep in touch with friends.....if they truly are your friends then give them your personal cellphone number or email address
and GTFO! This site will continue on, and most likely be better off without you
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A question to all of the Swingers
Posted:Jan 4, 2014 10:14 am
Last Updated:Jan 21, 2014 2:45 pm
29095 Views

I used to be in the lifestyle and I had a lot of fun, but didn't care much for some of the mindsets that most swinging couples have.

If you swing, you consider sex as a simple act - nothing more.

So WHY do most swinging couples insist on ALWAYS playing together?

Remember, sex is just a simple act - like buying groceries or getting gas for your car.
Do you always buy groceries together??
Do you always get gas for your car together??

And if you mention SAFETY, I will mention LACK OF TRUST between the couple. There has to be a better answer than that

And WHY do most swinging couples NOT allow the lady to play with other men?
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If white women were a drug.............
Posted:Jan 1, 2014 9:14 am
Last Updated:May 18, 2014 1:12 pm
28503 Views

Then some of the brothas on here are straight up JUNKIES and need to be sent to REHAB

Seriously, I get the whole "intrigue" of interracial attraction and I don't knock anyone for racial preference. But there are some Black men who really are fucking stupid when it comes to this topic.

For example:
One dumb ass actually asked on a forum if white mothers actually taught their white daughters how to be freaks for their men! Now without telling you anything about my past and present relationships with white women in general, I said "NO it all depends on the individual". Of course he didn't like that answer (or at least the fact that I, a Black man, said it) so he tried to politely dismiss my response - but when every white woman's response was the same as mine nobody heard from the critter since.

Another example:
Being a Black Bull - been, there, done that, don't really care to do it again. Like I said before, I don't knock anyone who does it as long as you keep things in perspective, or to be more succinct - understand that you are nothing more than a fuck toy and once the action ends you mean nothing more to her/him than the used condoms laying on the floor. Sorry to say, some brothas are so strung out on this concept they will completely blow off sex with every other demographic or race including their own. All I can say is wOw and smh

But just in case I'm wrong, if there are ANY white mothers out there who are planning to give a class to their white daughters on how to be an interracial freak PLEASE contact me - I'd love to sit in and participate. I can even provide refreshments
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