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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
Last Updated:Sep 25, 2017 6:39 am

And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

The Fun Stuff - about me

On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Day like today scent of sex -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

Toys r'us Request to see my toys__New toys

My kinks: My master list for BDSM 2017
Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks and Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: Now younger guys ___ and of course Seems I have older men search

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
Feelin sexy __Sinday mornin __Seems I have __ confidence and attraction are they two different things
[post 3741833] -- Photo time Male nude partial nude d15c
A post for some retrospect I suppose -- Trying to sleep -- Lustful thoughtsmind wanders at work

Virtual Symposium
1st time for the 12th VS International Intrigue -- 13th Virtual world and blogs -- 14th vs First dates
15th VS Black and White __ 16th vs Casual relationships __17th The First Time __18th VS Its a Secret&vs18its a secret__19thVS Its science time__20thVS My life as a __VS23 Dreams

Sexy saturdaypenis thoughts__ Adventures in dating land for tues__Mornin ladywood
Carpet service required__Sinday mornin well lunch time__Sex chat __Thirsty Thursday free time
[post 3799308]__world of words __ Logical right
[post 3786743]__ Friday __ What kind of style
on the eve of Friday __ Strokin wat __Where o'where are you hiding

Just for daily FUN
on the eve of Friday __ Finally Friday __ [post 3766059]
[post 3758060] __ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
another chilly winter night j14n16 __ Sexy saturday night j3n16
Fantasy, dreams, and desires
Posted:Sep 24, 2017 2:12 pm
Last Updated:Sep 25, 2017 9:04 pm

And then..
(just because I am crushingly bored)
I often fantasize about what it would be like to have a hot body/pretty face coupled with my sex drive and sexual interests. Lol

The amount of sex I would be getting would be awesome, and because I am hot the sex would usually be really good bec men would be putting the effort into it!

Oh the things I would do, be able to walk up to whatever guy catches my eye and chat him up. To get a smile and a glint in his eye

I would have my fucket list checked off twice over. Lol

Be that girl in the country song. Hot enough to have a song about his desire for you.

The fantasy of just being able to find that hot sex will sometimes keep me awake late at night. Having those partners that would be available when I am horny , to help me explore kinks and bdsm, to explore full body massage and pleasure. 

My desires for pleasure would be met with just a glance. No more begging for scraps of time.

Pleasure would be deep, dark, sensual and fun! Lol

Ya, it's a long day in the badlands and my fantasy mode is in overdrive. I am soaking wet just thinking about how hot that would be (and I am not wet just from the rain).
To have that lovers touch when I desire it, to bring pleasure to my partners. To see the lust in his eyes, to hear it in his voice, to see his cock hungry...

And yes I am well aware that fantasy is not reality.

Sexy bloggers the badlands are not lending well for restraint on my libido. Lol

Sinday in the sun n rain and not a soul in sight.
I remember when ... a sinday was more than just a writing
Posted:Sep 24, 2017 10:22 am
Last Updated:Sep 25, 2017 9:08 pm

Well actually it's more a faint glimmer of a memory or just a fantasy now.
But I remember when sex was fun and passionate, more than a 5 min fuck.

I was reading through the kink pages and in particular groups there is a whole lot of negativity around sex. And I get it, I really do, because casual sex is more for the male to pump away to orgasm. But I remember those very rare guys that actually enjoyed the person they where with, I have briefly chatted about those lovers before .... and I am really missing them now. Lol

Even though it's been a few years since I have someone open to sexploring, (even if it was really one sided because it was me doing things to him and not actually mutual pleasure). But at that time in my life I got off on giving, I do suppose a part of me thought that I would receive... now I just don't give unless I actually get something out of it because the sexual frustration was/is becoming overwhelming for me.

So the seemingly endless search for men that are still sexually active and open to trying new things or learning or helping me learn.
This is kinda why I should never have discovered kink and sexual pleasure.

Anyway, I know I am at that age where we are just disposable, but I still have those memories and how high the bar was with some of my past lovers. Nowadays I break out the champagne if he is able to achieve an erection and get it inserted. Lol and yes I know I am 100% to blame for that. Long past are the nights full of sexploration and sex. Lol

But...Those memories are what keeps me searching, but I do fully understand to keep the bar at ground level and have zero expectations now.

Like I mentioned before I have cut back on the porn and looking at photos/stories on the kink site, and I'm actively trying to lower my libido by not indulging in self pleasure and things that make me happy. Lol
Can't say if it's working very well though
I'm in the badlands today, and my ladyboner is humming for attention!

Sexy bloggers
How are are you willing to go to find what you desire?
Tues ladywood
Posted:Sep 19, 2017 12:29 pm
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2017 4:34 pm

Ah yes, the ladywood has been persistent lately.
Lol. I had to take a break from masturbating. ..
And I lasted 13 days

But the other night I woke up from a dead sleep and just needed to orgasm so bad... and so half asleep I got one in.

Craving penetration and passion...who would have thought it would be this difficult to find.

Now my ladyboner is humming away wanting some attention...

Sexy bloggers,
where do you manage to find good sex?

Sinday coffee
Posted:Sep 17, 2017 10:24 am
Last Updated:Sep 17, 2017 7:23 pm

So while I sit and enjoy my sinday coffee I have been reading through blogs, profiles and the mornin messages.

I know I am not the best at chit chat, but some days it sure feels like a struggle to have a "conversation" on dating sites. Considering many men just have barely there profiles and they don't really have much to say in the messages, what am I supposed to ask them about then?
It shouldn't really be up to me to drag basic info out of someone, I think it should have some flow and context in it...otherwise it's just meaningless chat to kill time. Ya ya I know, that's why many are online, just to play the game of who likes me and if it's mutual then on to the next photo.

Ok ya, I know it's a two way street when it comes to interest... but try and focus on a few at a time instead of the shotgun approach..mKay.

Coffee is good this morning and it's making up for the messages I deleted without even responding. Lol. Apparently Saturday night leads to some eye roll worthy "hmu" messages.

Sexy bloggers the paid dating site was a joke as I couldn't even screen out all the men that were not looking for my age, and yes I emailed the site 3 times asking them why they don't have those options. Pesky..Ya I know.
But the real life may eventually work, as long as I keep asking my male friends if they have any single friends. Lol nice thing about my friends, they have a pretty good idea on my morals n ethics so they know better than to send an attached male my way.

As for the kink front
I am currently looking at some jute and hemp rope, just deciding on the colors I want. Then I may as well start hosting rope practice nights again. At least it lends well for social interactions.
There are a few large kink workshops/conferences coming up! I'm only signed up for one so far due to cost and location, but there are a few presentations I wouldn't mind checking out in Vancouver. Fyi: I am super envious of those multiple events being offered in big cities!

How about you sexy bloggers,
are you able to keep conversations going without pulling teeth?
Or have you noticed that the content and context of messages have become shallower to the just the bare minimum required to respond?

I don't do mindless small chat like you asking me every day "how's it going" or the "hru" 😬
Then get all bent out of shape because I won't meet after the 5th or 10th hru message. Lol
I don't even expect or want deep soulful interactions, but at least pretend like you are interested in Me, and not just "your the only chick that responds! So let's meet" ...

Ok. Coffee is done.
Adventures in dating land...
Posted:Sep 15, 2017 1:44 pm
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2017 10:38 pm

Well as we all know I have been searching on other sites for compatible partners
Let's just say that the paid dating sites are no better than this site or the free dating sites.
I haven't seen soo many disappointing profiles since the last time I searched on this site. Lol

But, now the frustrating part, I have like 2 months left on the paid site and I have tried 3 times to deactivate and delete my profile ..and the profile still gets views and messages! Funny when I deactivate my profile my views increased also. Lol
And it's an auto renewal like this site.
So now I'm going to email the site support and have them delete that profile. I shouldn't have to pay money for a site that has the same guys as the free sites. Lol

I will say, when I moved my pof profile to grande prairie I had lots of positive response...so at least I know my profile isn't broken.

Anyway, watch what kind of site you sign up to, sometimes they are really tough to delete. Just like this site and its hundreds of dead profiles in my area.

Maybe I will just get back into hosting meet n greet nights for singles. ..even though it was mainly women showing up.

What about your searches?
Sexy bloggers do you depend on one or two sites?
Posted:Sep 14, 2017 9:27 pm
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2017 1:07 pm

Hobby? ...
And a personal fascination with sex, sensuality,...

It's no secret that I enjoy sex, skin, nakedness, and kink.
Many of my books are around human sexuality, my personal space is about intimacy and sensuality.

So when it comes to hobbies and even a future outlook,
I am definitely considering the photo route, but of men.  lol no surprises there!

I believe that all people can be sexy and sensual given the right context.
And I would love to bring more attention to the "every day" male not just the calendar boys the media throws at us. . Yes they are beautiful to look at too.
But I enjoy the smile of my male friends..., the crinkle in his eye, the roughness of his skin...
To capture the sensuality in men .. now that would be a goal indeed.

There isn't enough celebrated about the maleness, why?
-> because sex sells products and that sex comes from the youth worship you see in media. The male end of it sells beers or underwear, but does it elicit a spark of passion within the female mind?
As we all know (and a big generalization) women are more thinkers when it comes to passion, not visual.

I know I have "loved" a few explicit cock photos or male nudes, but when it comes to finding great photos of men... I am hard pressed unless I look on the sites that are for men seeking men.
I have found a few fun bondage profiles that strictly show men, but they are vastly outnumbered by the female bondage photos/profiles/followers/loves. I get the gender divide and all that stuff.

But it's my hobby and my desire to show what men are or who they are as passionate beings.

Having sons I know what quiet challenges they face when it comes to the harsh reality of a shallow media driven society. Don't even argue with me about "wah women should be loved because...", I get it especially as a an very average-attractive female that is basically invisible to 80% of the male and female population.
Men have it just as rough, I should know as a mother, as a partner, and as a friend.

It's definitely on my list for the next 12 months to explore photography and especially of the male form (and not just nudes). I think I owe it to the men in my life and those around me.

Women can and do enjoy men... but some days you wouldn't think that on any given site.
Lowering the libido?
Posted:Sep 13, 2017 8:29 pm
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2017 7:38 am

I have had a whole lot on my mind for the last while.

It's no secret that I haven't had much luck with meeting men and the few that I have met with just bombed in all sorts of bad or absolutely no interest. Which is fine because you need to meet with hundreds just to find one.

With the few that I had tried to have sex with: Obviously thier lack of a hardon is 100% my fault/problem and erectile issues are things I should just be fine with. (even though most never disclosed that tidbit of info before we agreed to meet because, and I quote, "I knew you wouldn't want to meet"....Ok whatever it's done). And it directly reflects on my sexuality and affects my confidence.

So. I have had to do this in my late 20's/early 30's, a chemical control to lower my sex drive. I ran the gauntlet of meds that the doc was allowed to prescribe me, even tried different combos of birth control with it. (BC a know libido killer in some women). .... let's just say that didn't work for the 5 yrs I tried.

Now, due to my location, age, body, appearance, I am not likely to find the sex partners I desire. The dating sites proved that it was just "older" men interested in my age, so means I will have to rein in my libido by 50-75%. Lol.

I did my last chance for asking the gynecologist to remove the uterus and assorted bits. (Also kills libido in some women). Which, I was also going to ask if they can also snip some of my nerves on the clitoras. ...but that went over like a lead balloon. Now I have to wait for major uterine problems before she will look again.

Then I started searching online for ways to lower female libido.
Seriously.... mainly articles on how to increase your arousal.


Apparently if I drink spearmint tea that should help ... fffsss
Yep so I will start there.
I really don't want to go the ssri route again, that ended really bad for me and my family the last time. I used to exercise 3 hrs a day after work just to burn down energy, but yep that just made me even hornier.
Meditation, reading, distraction...

So sexy bloggers,
Surely there has to be other women out there that have a greedy libido and can't find matching partners or had a partner with a lower sex drive...

Did you find something to help control your desire, cravings, hunger for sex?
Anything relatively "healthy" like herbs n teas, foods?
Cognitive behavior therapy - what did you try?

Ps...we don't have any sex therapists in the interior of bc.

Be polite also. I get it that most of the people deal with low sex drives, asexual women in thier lives. I just happen to keep finding men with much lower drives...so I get it. M'kay...
Give me a story to cheer me up :)
Posted:Sep 7, 2017 6:13 pm
Last Updated:Sep 16, 2017 8:42 am

O ok. Just looking to give a few points away to brighten up someone's day
Already gave away a bunch
and have a few more to hand out to non-gold peeps.

Tell me something great about your day or week!!

What little things made you smile?

And I will hand a few points out, maybe it will help you find that sliver of happiness in a connection made.
Posted:Sep 4, 2017 12:06 pm
Last Updated:Sep 16, 2017 4:32 pm

So an event planner that I follow on another site had posted looking for men to join in a sensual massage. It's going to be a few men for the one women followed by sex.
Because I am female and I enjoy men, this is my kind of event, just a hot wet mess of sensualism, massage, and primal sex. Of course this event is having trouble finding men, but the idea sounds really hot to me.

I have also seen events by another host where he was looking for multiple women for one man. Which include massage, ff stuff, ffm/fmf and so on (I bet the virtual lineup was around the block from men wanting this also).

I have thought about hosting events here but more on massage and sensual pleasure, but I have a feeling it would be mainly women showing up.

Sexy bloggers,
Have you gone to any events that where themed?
Have you taken any workshops on sex based interests? Inc kink, bdsm, massage...
Post sinday under a blanket of wildfire
Posted:Sep 4, 2017 9:59 am
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2017 9:25 am

Well sexy bloggers we are under smokey skies today but that doesn't stop the ladywood.
Being out on the barren badlands is just reminder on my search for for the better experience. I am still piecing together why my people picker is broken, but maybe I don't want to know why and just end up in antartica instead. Lol

But I do fully understand that it comes down to physical attraction. The tinderization that has taken over your decisions on whether you will meet or not based on a photo or two plus the promise of instant gratification.
I got that point, and yes I have tried it a few times and it's not the kind of sex I am looking for on my freetime (quick sex is fine in an adult party sutuation).

So back to the badlands and my searches. Never mind.

With my wknds slowly filling up with other things and the prospects of finding some men from online and close by are fading away, I have been more concentrating on finding them in real life. Let's just say that the majority of the people I know are already married or attached and they mainly know only similar people.
Anyway, I went to visit my oldest son in grande prairie and to also check out the prospects there. Lol. And Geez that's where the single men are hiding! But a 10 hr drive in good weather or a 5 hr flight (no direct flights), is going to make this venture only something I do every few mnths.

Ah well.
I'm horny as fuck today, looking at all these sexy images on here and the kink site...and wondering where the hell do I find good sex. Where are all the sane kinky people. .... why are there yellow jackets around me and I'm in the middle of the badlands.
Thirsty Thursday
Posted:Aug 31, 2017 12:34 pm
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2017 6:31 am
Well gosh darnit it better be Thursday

Anyway like I mentioned the other day I had some anticipated orgasm time to catch up on. And yes last minute free time I made the best out of it the first night.... now the second night is another story.

I did hold off on rubbing the little ladyboner right after work, instead I showered put a dress on and went to the pub for dinner. (Ps: apparently lots of seniors also go to wing night! So my plans for that fell thru).
Strike one: new guy can't make it (funny how they are never available when I'm horny)
Dinner was good.
Strike two: casual friend is working late but was not up for company. (Funny how they are never available when I'm horny)

Ok whatever, my toys are fine also.

Let's just say star trek DEEP space 9 was a little hotter last night.
But still craving some penetration. ...whatever is a flower to do....
(See first comment for that one)

Ah yes ladybits. Some of you like these pics, some of you hate them.
They can be good to jerk off to, lol
-> (image now in the comment section)

Which one thing I find really funny about this whole hookup culture and most porn I glance (I dont watch hetero porn but it always pops up first. Plus many of the vids on here). So what's funny... well some men make a big deal out of the chick being conventionally attractive and/or thin - but you spend the whole time doing her doggy style and only seeing her ass!

Enjoy your sexy Thursday,
At this moment I'm still having free time tonight! So means more toy time!

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