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Blogs > wrMercury > Sanity of a madman

Bisexual or not  

wrMercury 46M
924 posts
9/25/2017 3:52 pm
Bisexual or not


I am amazed at how many straight guys want to meet up with me. Some are legitimately straight and just want to "try it once". I am fine with that. Others tell me "I am bi but don't want people to know". Also cool, whatever you are comfortable with. One of my favorites that comes up frequently is "I don't list as Bi because then women won't talk to me in here". I am willing to believe that is a genuine concern.

The other thing that comes up every so often is "my girl wants to see me with another guy". The basic idea that they are not into it unless they are told to do it, or a thinly veiled desire to try it out with your partners permission/encouragement.

Where my problem comes in is that if your profile says you are straight, I am not going to bother you. I really don't want to bother or offend anyone. If you are a woman that says "no married men" on your profile I don't start conversations. If you are a couple only looking for women I don't message you. I know a lot of people don't read profiles (partly because of how the site works, partly because some people are jerks). But if you say you are straight and look me up or start a conversation I am not bothered by what you are comfortable calling yourself, just let me know it is okay to message you.

wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/25/2017 3:54 pm

 So let me know, if your partner wanted to try a same sex experience would you encourage them or not? Also, if you knew a prospective partner was bisexual, how does it effect your desire to talk to them?


1tongue4yall 64M
2205 posts
9/25/2017 4:55 pm

 i am one of those...I used to list myself as bi but too many women didn't want to talk to me because I was bi. so I now list myself as straight. I have been bi since I was a teen. I have not had too many chances to live out my love of men. there is no feeling in the world like a man deep inside me slowly sliding in and out of me.
maybe some day when I go to ft. wayne I could stop in and we could have some fun....


DownLow2986 40M
1 post
9/25/2017 6:02 pm

 I also label myself as straight but it's only a label.


luckypuss86 37F
235 posts
9/25/2017 8:57 pm

 If a guy wants to play then I tell him go ahead but not while I am in relationship because, well, I do not like to share. I have talked to a few who say they are straight on their profile and then they learn I am okay with it and they tell me they are actually bisexual. Problem with that is I end up being a sounding board for everything they want to or have done with men. I have had to literally tell guys that I didn't want to hear it every single time we chat. I have cut back on chatting because that started to be a pattern.


Singlem4u 59M

9/25/2017 10:19 pm

 It seems most women that are bisexual are socially accepted and most men that are bisexual are socially unacceptable? Sucks but that is the fact of it most men hide the fact that they enjoy cock for fear of being unaccepted socially Most women out there cant accept male bisexuality Couples seem to be more into it and accept it.....

Up to a few years ago I was straight had a bi experience with a couple that opened the door to a whole new dynamic sexually for me and now yes I'm bisexual!


luckypuss86 37F
235 posts
9/25/2017 10:45 pm

 I have to say though that a majority of bisexual men that I have come across aren't even looking for women on this site. Like @Myassnotfatenuf said if they are bi or bi curious they are going for the men, couples, or tv/ts/tg. As a single woman chances become slim.


wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/26/2017 7:51 pm
    Quoting  :
That is a very real concern when people do not use condoms. I wonder at times how many people start off curious and friend bi and gay people to learn more about themselves.


wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/26/2017 7:52 pm
    Quoting 1tongue4yall:
    i am one of those...I used to list myself as bi but too many women didn't want to talk to me because I was bi. so I now list myself as straight. I have been bi since I was a teen. I have not had too many chances to live out my love of men. there is no feeling in the world like a man deep inside me slowly sliding in and out of me.
    maybe some day when I go to ft. wayne I could stop in and we could have some fun....
I find it interesting that even in a virtual environment such as this we have to censor ourselves to get what we want.


wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/26/2017 7:53 pm
    Quoting DownLow2986:
    I also label myself as straight but it's only a label.
But do labels lead to judgments, those projected onto us by others and the judgements we have for ourselves.


wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/26/2017 7:55 pm
    Quoting luckypuss86:
    If a guy wants to play then I tell him go ahead but not while I am in relationship because, well, I do not like to share. I have talked to a few who say they are straight on their profile and then they learn I am okay with it and they tell me they are actually bisexual. Problem with that is I end up being a sounding board for everything they want to or have done with men. I have had to literally tell guys that I didn't want to hear it every single time we chat. I have cut back on chatting because that started to be a pattern.
I totally understand about not wanting to share. I had a friend years ago that was very openly bi, but while he was married he did not do anything with anyone other than his wife. I also understand how being a sounding board would be annoying after a while as they talk about what they would want to do instead of what you could do together.


wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/26/2017 7:58 pm
    Quoting Singlem4u:
    It seems most women that are bisexual are socially accepted and most men that are bisexual are socially unacceptable? Sucks but that is the fact of it most men hide the fact that they enjoy cock for fear of being unaccepted socially Most women out there cant accept male bisexuality Couples seem to be more into it and accept it.....

    Up to a few years ago I was straight had a bi experience with a couple that opened the door to a whole new dynamic sexually for me and now yes I'm bisexual!
I think that socially things are slowly changing, which is part of why I started this topic. But what I notice is that being Bi is just not understood well (even by people that are bi). I have had people tell me I am really gay because I like playing with men as well as women. I wonder what perceptions will be like in 20 years.


wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/26/2017 8:00 pm
    Quoting luckypuss86:
    I have to say though that a majority of bisexual men that I have come across aren't even looking for women on this site. Like @Myassnotfatenuf said if they are bi or bi curious they are going for the men, couples, or tv/ts/tg. As a single woman chances become slim.
I think that you are right. A lot of guys that I talk to only want to play with other guys and haven't been with a woman in years. I do tend to wonder if that is totally by choice or if they have just been rejected so many times that they settle for sex with other men as it is easier.


wrMercury 46M
1570 posts
9/26/2017 8:03 pm

 And I am actually amazed this topic got this much attention. My blog is by no means a popular one or "top blog". Typically I don't get this many responses, so thank you to everyone for sharing. I am also going to admit that I am just trying to respond to everyone quickly and promote discussion, I am not looking to start an argument or disagree with anyone, so if anyone takes it that way I do apologize.


luckypuss86 37F
235 posts
9/26/2017 11:42 pm
    Quoting wrMercury:
    I totally understand about not wanting to share. I had a friend years ago that was very openly bi, but while he was married he did not do anything with anyone other than his wife. I also understand how being a sounding board would be annoying after a while as they talk about what they would want to do instead of what you could do together.
OMG Exactly. It's like hey I sparked up a conversation with you because I might want to do something with you. The last guy always talked about guys fucking his ass and I am like what are you talking to me for then. SMH


luckypuss86 37F
235 posts
9/26/2017 11:45 pm
    Quoting wrMercury:
    I think that you are right. A lot of guys that I talk to only want to play with other guys and haven't been with a woman in years. I do tend to wonder if that is totally by choice or if they have just been rejected so many times that they settle for sex with other men as it is easier.
Or that men are more aggressive when it comes to hookups so they are more readily available. I've been rejected or ghosted a few times by Bi guys and CDs but that hasnt change anything for me.


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